We go through the whole gamut of emotions and thoughts all through our lives. And the negative feelings are very much there even when you are the epitome of positivity. And admitting that they exist only proves your ability to ride out a tough situation. It is an affirmation that you expect things to turn for the better and are prepared to walk that extra mile for it.
It is important what we allow neither to overwhelm us. For there is a certain point beyond which you cannot stretch things, even if they are your feelings or emotions. And there are ways that you can learn to strike just the right balance. And here are some pointers that will help you get started on your journey to control and rule over those negative feelings.
Know Where You Stand
The first step is to know where you stand on the arc. Have we managed to retain our sense of positivity? Or have we allowed the negative feelings to overcome us.
Stop And Ponder
We tend to ignore and marginalize much that is essential in our life when we excessively give our attention to anything. Break away from the state of affairs, step back, and take a view from afar to get a different perspective of the situation.
Look For Alternate Ways And Means
And then you need to decide on your next course of action. And this is where you have to give some solitude to yourself. Because the answer to your next course and your ultimate happiness lies within you, not in the minds and hearts of others.
Search Deep And Discover The Reasons That Leads To Your Thoughts And Actions
Go deep inside and decipher what it is that is controlling you and making you feel, think, and act the way you do. It could be any one or a combination of different emotions and thoughts. It could be love or fear. And are your actions driven by your need to free yourself from this clutter? Or is it that the act in itself gives you satisfaction? Or is there something else that only you can define?
The Need For Thorough Introspection
If it is fear that is controlling your thoughts and actions, you first need to identify the cause of it. What is it that stifles and makes you feel suffocated? Are you afraid to reveal your train of thoughts? The fear that others might find you messed up. And so we try to block out those trains of thoughts.
The Need To Allow Reason Into Our Chain Of Thoughts
When we are told something, we naturally do not accept it as the truth unless we have a reason to believe it. There are two ways to go about it. We either trust the source. Or we depend on assertion, rationale, and hard facts.
And this is when we realize that we have needlessly let our fears and premonitions rule over our sanity. It is essential to judge for yourself and not be led by the opinion and verdicts of others.
Living life on our terms and enriching ourselves in the process is what ultimately contributes to our happiness and not what the world thinks of us and our actions.
The Need To Challenge The Self
If you feel the need to go in deep, you need to stray off the beaten track. You need to let some disorder into your life, albeit in a controlled manner.
Learn to close your eyes to some disarray in your life and relax despite it. Learn to recognize the negative thoughts that come to the surface. Your anxieties, fears, and other negative emotions reveal themselves.
Make such negative emotions a part of your life. It is through allowing such thoughts to permeate our life that we learn to control them.
Doing The Things That Bring Happiness Ultimately Enriches You
Once you have allowed those negative thoughts to rise to the surface and reveal themselves, you can safely do the things that are close to you. You feel safe, mentally calm, and well-balanced. With both feet firmly on the ground, you are at ease with the world.
And it is safe to assume that each thing that we do has its share of both the favorable and the unfavorable. We must recognize the point where we need to stop for each other and not let any one thought take precedence over us.